Sunday, July 31, 2011

Long DIstance Relationship

Long distance relationship atau yang lebih di kenal LDR, udah jadi hal yang biasa tapi sangat menegangkan.
Menegangkan karena kita gak tau apa yang akan terjadi selanjutnya. Bisa aja sekarang fine-fine aja. Namun lalu and then, setelah berbulan-bulan berlalu, pastilah muncul kendala-kendala pada hubungan percintaan tersebut.
Mulai dari rasa kangen yang sangat mendalam, lost contact, and yang paling bahaya IMAN yang GOYAH.

KANGEN - itu mah perasaan yang selalu kita rasain. Sama keluarga, temen, apalagi pacar. kalo sama pacar, biarpun 5 menit yang lalu baru ketemu, pasti udah kangen lagi.
Karena jaman udah modern banget, kita bisa nelfon, sms, email, atau yang skarang lagi ngetrend yaitu via BBM. But, for your information, semua itu GAK CUKUP buat ngelepasin rasa rindu. Jalan satu-satu nya yaitu KETEMUAN. Mau kata emak lo, babe lo, kaka lo, adek lo, atau kata siapapun itu, yaa ketemuan lah hal yang paling mujarab buat ngilangin itu feeling.
ini kita kasi nama SYNDROM KANGENITIS.
Syndrom ini akan semakin akut kalo salah satu pihak tiba-tiba menghilang dari peredaran bbm tapi tetep eksis di peredaran jejaring sosial.
you know lah what I mean.
Syndrom ini bisa bikin kita serasa pake baju bayi. alias NYESEK.

LOST CONTACT - biasa nye terjadi kalo salah satu dari 2 sejoli tersebut kagak megang hp. alias nggak ngasi kabar ke sejoli 1 nya *yaa gitu lah maksudnya*. Awalnya mungkin biasa aja. setelah beberapa jam hp gak berbunyi, baru lah muncul pertanyaan2 di benak. "Dia lagi ngapain sih? kok gak bbm aku?" or "aduuh sibuk ngapain sih?" atau yang paling parah kita bakal mikir gini "ahh gue udah gak dipeduliin"
bener gak lo mikir nya kayak gitu? I think most of you think that way.
Tapi menurut aku, itu semua salah. Mungkin aja dia itu lagi sibuk. And gak mungkin kalo kita gak dipikirin. At least waktu dia ngapain pasti dikit-dikit kita numpang lewat di pikirannya dia. ITU PASTI! kalo sampe nggak, yaa mungkin lo salah orang *jleb
dan jika kalo hal ini terjadi terus menerus, akan muncul sesuatu yang bernama GALAU atau bahasa gaulnya FEELING BLUE.
Galau ini bisa muncul dalam berbagai bentuk dan wujud. Mulai dari gak niat makan atau berlebihan makan, gak bisa kentut, sampe gak bisa tidur. Hal-hal ini nih uda jadi hal yang biasa. normal. standard. flat. usual.
Pokoknya lost contact itu adalah awal dari kehancuran suatu hubungan.
Jangan sampe hal ini terjadi sama relationship lo. Soalnya skalinya lost contact, akan fatal kedepannya.

IMAN GOYAH - lost contact emang parah. tapi iman yang goyah itu lebih parah lagi maaann!!
Mau yang cewek, mau yang cowok sama-sama bisa goyah imannya.
contohnya, kalo si cowok liat cewek yang BENING, dan langsung mengerahkan pasukan buat nyari info tentang cewek itu, baru yee namanya imannya goyah.
Tapi kalo si cowok cuma bilang,"oh dia cantik" but he didn't do anything about it, brarti dia hanya mengagumi. tidak menyukai.
kalo lo long distance-an, lo bisa perhatiin tingkah laku nya dia waktu sms or waktu lo telfonan sama dia. atau bisa juga lo liat di jejaring sosialnya dia.
being a stalker won't kill you. but it can hurt you.
because they reveal the truth.

iman goyah itu bahasa yang lucu tapi sangat bahaya kalo sampe terjadi. why not?  bicos, kalo sampe iman seseorang itu goyah, artinya pintu hatinya sedikit demi sedikit terbuka untuk menerima orang lain dan mengeluarkan orang yang sebelumnya sudah mengisi hatinya. Singkatnya, lo harus siap-siap tissue karena you're about to end your relationship.


kesimpulan of the day:
sebelum lo memulai LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, lo musti pastii kalo lo dan pasangan lo sanggup ngejalaninnya. gak cuma ngomong "bisa" tapi gak bisa buktiin.
kalo awalnya bilang sanggup tapi ditengah-tengah perjalanan tiba-tiba bilang gak sanggup, itu bener-bener menusuk. Mengapa? karena secara nggak langsung dia make a promise kalo dia will always love you and distance no matter.
So, make sure kalian berdua make the right decision sebelum kalian menjalani LDR itu.
Dan kalo kalian sedang menjalaninya dan merasa jenuh, kalian musti omongin baik-baik. gak boleh diem-dieman.
because, SILENCE IS KILLING YOU SOFTLY.

Long distance relationshiop is not an easy thing to do. But, if there are TRUST, COMMUNICATION, and LOVE, no matter HOW FAR you guys are, you will not feel you are FAR away.

salam cantik :*

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Cantik itu relative

Di era globalisasi kayak sekarang ini, bukan cuma duit yang jadi masalah. tapi kecantikan juga jadi masalah yang lagi hangat-hangatnya.
Banyak cewek-cewek yang merasa bahwa dirinya gak cantik. Padahal semua orang bilang dia cantik.
Tapi, tidak sedikit juga orang yang bilang dirinya cantik padahal *ehem *maaf dia itu biasa aja.
Sebenernya, cantik itu gak selalu keliatan dari appearance kita. tapi cantik juga bisa keliatan dari hati cewek tersebut.
Ada seorang cewek yang hitam, dan gendut. orang-orang mungkin akan berkata kalau dia itu gak cantik kalo cuma dalam sekali liat. tapi, kalo orang-orang tersebut udah mengenal cewek itu lebih dekat, mereka bisa aja bilang kalo cewek itu cantik. mungkin dia gak cantik muka, tapi dia itu cantik hati. bener gak sih?
Misalnya juga, ada seorang cewek putih, langsing, dan tinggi. Cowok A akan bilang kalo dia itu cantik. Tapi, cowok B bisa aja bilang dia itu biasa aja.
Do you see what my point is??
If you don't, let me explain. maksudnya, cantik itu gak ada patokannya. cantik itu tergantung selera orang masing-masing.
mungkin kurang jelas apa yg aku maksud. tapi yang penting, intinya yang kita bilang cantik belum tentu orang lain bilang cantik juga.
lo bakal pelajarin hal begituan melalui pengalaman lo sendiri.


contohnya gue. gue ini sering iri sma temen-temen gue yang cantik. yang bisa ngedapetin pacar yang cakep karena kecantikan yang mereka miliki.
gue pernah jealous sma beberapa temen (baca:adek kelas) gue yang cantiknyaaaa ya ampun Tuhaaaann, cantik deh pokoknya. saat gue bilang ke temen gue kalo dia itu cantik, temen gue malah ngerespon,"halah, masih ada yang lebih cantik daripada dia"
mndengar statement itu, gue jadi sedikit percaya diri. tapi yaa tetep aja gue masih jealous2 kucing gitu.
And then, gue baru menyadari kalo cantik itu bukan segalanya. percuma kalo cewek itu cantik tapi gak pinter, gak bisa kerja, gak bisa sukses, dan bisanya cuma pamer doang.
Mendingan gue itu jelek (tapi gak jelek2 amat), tapi pinter dan sukses. Stuju gakk ladies? hahaha
ternyata bukan cuma gue yang ngerasa diri jelek. beberapa temen gue juga mengproklamasikan kalo mereka itu gak cantik. padahal dalam pengelihatan gue, mereka itu cantik2 smua. bahkan lebih cantik dari pada paris hilton. mereka yang berpikiran seperti itu kebanyakan karena mereka tidak memiliki kepercayaan diri.


dari pengalaman-pengalaman yang telah gue lalui, gue bisa menyimpulkan bahwa:
KITA SEMUA ITU CANTIK. CUMA KITA MUSTI CARI CARA SUPAYA KECANTIKAN KITA BISA TERPANCAR DARI DALAM DIRI KITA.

Tuhan menciptakan kita dengan kecantikan kita masing-masing.
It's just about how you embrace your beauty in you soul

salam cantik :* 

Saturday, July 23, 2011

Being in a relationship is not easy as it looks

I know u guys ever been in a relationship. What did u feel when there was someone who loves u?
How did u react when someone said 'I love you' ?
There is only 1 word to answer it. HAPPY!
But what did u feel when the one u love ignoring u? SAD!

Some people said that being in a relationship is a fun thing or a happy thing. ( I don't care how u describe the 'fun')
But in fact, not all of 'em can make u happy.
Love is beautiful. But love also can hurt you. Make u feel angry, mad, pissed, or any other negative thing.

If u got a right person, u might be happy. But if you didn't, u might feel under pressure.
That's why before you made a decision, you have to THINK about it first.
You won't know what will happen next.
That's why you should choose carefully. So you won't regret what u have chose.

When u started a relationship, everyday seems like happy days. But when 1 month, 2 months, those happiness could turn into sadness or flat feeling. Apalagi if your partner keep making you pissed off.

There are a lot thing we should have in a relation ship.
People said,there are 4 things people should have in their relationship, which are: TRUST, COMMUNICATION, LOVE, CARE.

The questions are:
• Can u trust your partner?
• Can u communicate with each other everyday?
• Can u love your partner really deep?
• Are u care enough to him/her?

The answers are:
• It's so hard to trust someone if they lied
• It's hard to communicate when there's still a childish habit
• It's hard to love someone who doesn't love you back
• Yes I am. But I don't know if he/she care about me too

When u're broken heart, Shout! Cry! Throw things! Eat!
The point is do anything which can keep your anger away.
But the best thing u can do is just let it flow. Because, God had make the best for us. If He said, go on, then you guys keep walking together. But if He said, stop, then you guys have to stop your journey together.

Yeah, that is all I can say.
For those who's in a relationship, keep your love safe and warm.
For those who still single, don't be sad. Enjoy your single life while you can enjoy it.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Someone will be meaningful when they left us

All of us of course have friends. Only friends or even best friends. New friends or old friends.Do you remember the first time you met them? Do you remember how you guys became closer and closer everyday?
And do you remember when your friends have to leave you for a long time?
I have a story to tell.
Last friday (15/7/2011), I was in Jakarta. Me and my cousin (Michelle), picked up her friend who came from America. Her friend, Citra, brought also her daughter and son. They are Suzanne and Adam. Both of them are still a kid.
Citra slept over at Michelle's house. They slept in the guest room with me.
We spent all weekend together. We went to every mall in Jakarta. Well, almost every mall. Hahaha ...
On Saturday, we were at Mall Klapa Gading. I walked with Suzanne, while Adam with Michelle's husband.
We went to Zara. We looked at clothes etc.. Suzanne was playing with me in the store. She pulled my LIVESTRONG rubber bracelet. And finally it torn apart. Her mom saw it. The she mad at her. Suzanne almost cried. But I said that it was fine. But actually, I was so mad at the time. But I couldn't do anything. I just kept my madness in my  heart. That bracelet is very meaningful. It's my good luck charm. And I bought it not in Indonesia. But then, I forgot about it.

Time flew. They have to go home soon.
Monday (18/7/2011) - that day, we were having lunch at Bakmi GM. After we have our lunch, we went to hospital for a while. On our way to hospital, Adam was very sleepy. I didn't know why, but suddenly he came to me, hugged me and sat ion my thigh. I knew that he was going to sleep. And yes. In just minutes, he fallen asleep. Suzanne, who was sitting next to me, also fallen asleep.So there were 2 kids slept on my left and my right arms.
this is me with Adam. I looked like I'm his mom
-___________________-


After we went to hospital, we went to Plaza Indonesia. Adam was already awake. But he didn't want to walk by himself. So I have to carry him, while Suzanne held my right hand.
We were at Valentino store. I took some pictures with them in the store's mirror. It was weird. But there was noone who could take some pictures for us.
Adam's face after woke up



Isn't Suzanne cute?? :3

Then we went home.
after we arrived, they packed all their things up. And they gathered around downstairs, while I was still in the bathroom.
I walked downstairs and sat on a stair. Suddenly, Suzanne came to me and asked me for a hug. I hugged her. When she hugged me, she said, " I'll see you in New York."
When I heard that, I was speechless. I felt like my heart just stopped. What she said was so deep. My tears started to came out.  The way she talked, it was like she loves me and maybe she felt like she has a sister. That's because we were sleeping together in the same room and on the same bed. I accompanied her every where she goes. And when she did her "thing" (baca: boker), she asked me WHIPPED it!! It was so nasty. Butyeah, it was ookkhhhaaaayyyyy ....
Maybe that's why she felt that way.
Adam also kissed my cheecks.
And when they got into the cab, my tears started to fall again. But I whipped it. It's not my style crying in front of people.
Eeven though they were a little bit annoying, but they love me and I also love them back.
At night on the same day, I was in my room. I felt lonely. Because I have to sleep alone. It was so suck.
I couldn't sleep. I was still awake until 2am (Tuesday, 19/7/11).
Being with them for a weekend, told me some new things which I couldn't write it.

Now I know that when new friends or old friends gone, we felt like they are meaningful and you would wish they didn't leave you that soon, so that you could spend more time with them.

The special lesson is enjoy every moment and every second you spent with your beloved person.

Monday, July 4, 2011

saying "good bye" is not easy

Saying good bye is an easy thing to say but a hard thing to do.
Every time we met someone, soon we'll have to say good bye.
But good bye doesn't mean we will never meet again. We could meet again in some other time.
Saying good bye to your friends are hard.
But, whether u like it or not,u have to say it.

Soon, I will leave my friends *again* to pursue my future.
They are amazing friends. Because they were the one who fill my days with laughter when I was around 'em.
They are incredible people. Because they could make jokes all the time.
They are unreplaceable. Because, finding friends like them in a new city, new place, are hard.

I don't want to say good bye. But, I don't have other words to say it.
One of my friend told me to say,"see ya guys!"
But, still, HARD to say!
As hard as how we live in this world.

Time flies. The last minute I can do is, give thanks to God for sending these wonderful people in my life. Because with out them, I am nothing.
And the last thing I have to do is spending as much time as I have with them. Before I left.
It's destiny. No one can change it.
If you don't like it, just leave it.
But if you think it's hard to do, just release your soul, and you will be able to do it.

Good bye is not the end of a meeting.
But it's a start to change yourself to a better person before we met again.
Don't afraid to say "good bye". Because, if destiny is in us, we will meet again.